The sad part is that part of the problem comes from the competitive view we have from dating — and our own insecurities that then are exposed. Second to this, we believe it is harmless and that our charm and wit will win out in the end.
"For starters, dating is a competitive sport — and we feel the pinch," relationship coach and founder of Maze of Love, Chris Armstrong, tells Bustle. 'I know I'm not really 6'2 but she'll love my sense of humor.' Lastly, we lack confidence.
It sounds made up, but it's definitely a real thing that you've probably experienced, but the dating app Hinge finally put a name to it. Maybe it's intentional — like lying about your height or your age — or maybe you're just trying hard to impress that you accidentally misrepresent yourself. I once went out with a guy who I thought was really down to earth — he implied he had grown up on a farm and we spoke about horses, he was in a bluegrass band, he wore a sh*t ton of plaid.
But when I met him, he was the snobbiest person I had ever met.
Features that give us a more realistic impression can save us So when you're filling out a dating app profile or chatting, it's best to be as open as possible.
Now, it wasn't that he had lied, everything he said was true, except for the fact that the 'farm' was more like 'the entire compound from '.
But he had emphasized one part of his personality, the part he sensed would appeal to me, to the point where it was like a different person than he actually was."As if catfishing wasn't bad enough, people who are actually trying to find dates or love through online dating sites have to be concerned about people kittenfishing them," Nikki Leigh, love coach and host of Ready for Love Radio, tells Bustle.
That said, age gaps have been proven to cause some unique challenges and complications.
Like, for example, reminiscing about pop culture phenomena from your childhood.We asked a few women about the unique challenges of dating a younger guy—here’s what they said.