When he comes calling, make sure you are included in all conversations.Be polite, but demand the same respect and eye contact from him that he’s giving the woman in your life.He’s not a casual friend: he’s a confidant, and she may be tempted to share more than just words with him.It’s okay to let her know that you’re uncomfortable with her seeing someone of the opposite sex so often when you’re not around.1) When she Sees a Friend you’re not Allowed to Meet Of course everyone needs a little alone time now and then, sometimes even with an opposite-sex friend.
It’s not your business to break up a friendship, but don’t be shy about showing your girlfriend lots of tender and specifically physical affection when this guy’s around.
And deliver her ex the one-two punch of becoming the most awesome, caring boyfriend your gal’s ever seen, while joking once in a while about her ex’s patchy goatee or the time he split his pants on the dance floor.
3) When the Third Wheel Rolls too Close to Home Does your girlfriend have a platonic friend, who seems innocent, harmless, sexless, and always on the phone with her? Unless he’s her brother or first cousin, or prefers the romantic company of other men, his affections for her run deeper than friendship—he’s just trapped in the friend zone, too timid to make a pass, yet too dumb to move on to another girl.
And that’s the trouble: when your sweetums is contacted by the man who used to melt her heart, you don’t want to seem boorish and unsophisticated by complaining about a harmless reunion.
But make no mistake—if your girlfriend’s ex contacts her out of the blue, especially if you’ve only begun a relationship with her and she’s only just stopped seeing him, then he’s likely not out to patch up old wounds.
You probably do feel a little threatened if your girlfriend or wife has a second “husband” at work.