They share the same feelings (as I did and do) of excitement, trepidation, anxiety, confusion and fear over their newborn single status.
I've made up for all of the years of inexperience in the dating pool, earning a rap sheet full of mistakes and heartbreaks.
My advice is to be sensitive to her single/dating immaturity.
She's only known the security of married life -- all in and completely devoted.
From the outside, we may look the same as our single comrades (with no children,) but the insides of our lives, minds and hearts are vastly different.
After the day is over and she's tended to everyone else's needs, she will want to express her sensual side and be passionate.
I missed out on the 10 years of dating and hard knock life lessons of an un-committed Gen X'er.
I had no clue how to behave or what to expect from another mate, not to mention the men I was connecting with had no experience with a woman with children, posing another layer of complications.
Taking it slow and playing a smooth game is not her M. Remember, she spent every night for years with the same person.
She is a fish out of water and she will act like it. Make light of her ineptness and remember she's on a learning curve -- it won't be like this forever.
When you don't have anyone to answer to, come home to, or care for, your schedule belongs to you. A woman with children can't, nor could she even if she wanted to be. Daily life is planned out because children need consistency and boundaries, and she needs to maintain her sanity.